Monique Alexander is the new sex columnist for the AdultFriendFinder.com on-line magazine. Her second monthly column is now on the site and it answers a slew of questions, ranging from her favorite sexual positions to how the newly sober should go about forming relationships. On that score, she tells her one-year sober correspondent: “Congratulations on your sobriety! You’ve taken a major step to change your life. In fact, it’s so big and so important that starting a relationship with a woman is minor by comparison. Relationships are all about having confidence. The more confident you are, the more sex appeal you have. When you find someone you like, don’t be over eager. Be cool and even play hard to get. Once she has that vibe, she’ll be curious and want to learn more about you, one step at a time.”

Another questioner asks her how she got into the adult entertainment industry. She relates the story and then says, “Though I love sex, I knew that making boy/girl movies would change my life forever and so I wanted to be sure I was ready for it. It took me three years to make that decision and I’m not sure I would have done it, had I not been invited to be a Vivid Girl. Vivid is at the top of the industry. The company is also very strict about testing to make sure that everyone on a set is healthy and that is important to me. I know I’m not going to do this forever, but right now I’m having sex for a living and loving it.”